Shame and isolation
Sexual trauma is isolating and shame-making. People who experience sexual trauma tend to withdraw those painful memories into themselves and may struggle to process and integrate their memories of trauma in a functional way. The criminal justice system focuses on punishing the wrong-doers and gives little or no attention to the victims of these acts, which can further isolate and shame the victims. The needs of victims of sexual abuse or assault are varied, but often there is the need to be heard, and the need to have their experiences recognised, accepted, validated and vindicated. There are other people who were damaged during their time living at Centrepoint who may wish to talk to you safely about shared experiences.
The power of connecting
The adults of Centrepoint, who either failed to act against wrongs, or who actively participated whilst caught up in the culture, are likely to be left with strong feelings which may never have been addressed functionally. These feelings may include guilt, remorse, fear of recrimination and helplessness to right wrongs which they participated in. Connecting has the power to draw people together to allow the healing of right relationship to occur.
Ways to interact or connect through the project
Connecting with people who understand can be powerfully healing. A primary goal of the project is to enable non-threatening engagement for anyone who has been damaged by experiences at Centrepoint and who has unmet connection needs. The project aims to offer different levels of connection and interaction, to suits the different needs of people as they engage with the project. The panels below outline the different levels of connection available:
JOIN a SUPPORT GROUP
There is a private group currently underway for children of Centrepoint, who meet via zoom to support one another. If you wish to join the group to gain support and connect with others you will need to make contact with the group facilitator, who will determine if you are a good fit for the group
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NORTH & SOUTH
Anke Richter opens up the story again in catching up with some of Centrepoints children in 2018.
She provides another insight to the journeys of the forgotten children that were part of the community and where they are now, what they are doing and how they have established their adult lives beyond Centrepoint
“This in essence is my goal. To set an example by doing what is good. If I live openly and honestly, I set an example of virtue, humanness, restoration, and healing. I give others permission to join me on my journey despite the fear of failure or the rejection it might elicit when they know they are not alone in their experience. The more of us who amass the courage to embark openly on this path, the more normal this experience becomes, effectively eliminating the tactic of shame and isolation that the enemy so often uses to cause us to falter.”
Breaking the Silence