Every story matters.
If you have a story of living at Centrepoint it is a
story that matters.
Sharing your story has power to bring about change in your life, and in the lives of others
Understanding the process
Sharing our story with other people enables us to make sense of what happened to us, to integrate the memories into our life experience, and to connect with people who understand what it was like. It also breaks down barriers formed by misunderstanding and lack of information. Telling your story requires a lot of trust.
Ways to tell your story
People's experiences of life at Centrepoint have things in common, but equally, experiences were varied and diverse. Your experiences may have little in common with other people who lived there. People also have differing needs and differing capacities for 'going there'.
The Centrepoint Restoration Project is attempting to assist people to find ways to tell their stories, such that each person has control, feels that their personal growth has benefited from this, and so that they are not re-traumatised or stigmatised by the experience. Telling your story may be as simple as seeking out a professional therapeutic relationship. Unfortunately, the treatment options of psychotherapy and counselling have been ruined for many by the therapy-abuse which occurred at Centrepoint.
What is clear though, is that as many as 40 years have gone by since people lived at Centrepoint, and for many people time has not healed anything. Keeping silent has not helped, and pretending that it didn't matter has achieved nothing.
If finding a therapist who understands either is not an option for you, or you would like to try something else, other options may include:
joining a workshop run by a professional with experience in cults, with other members from Centrepoint, with the aim of exploring the issues, and resolving some of the personal difficulties which remain
using skills gained at such a workshop to meet with others who you may have let down or wish to be reconciled with
being interviewed and having your personal story confidentially filmed with a therapist, for your private use
discussing your experiences on a podcast, to allow others to benefit from your learnings
having your story taped and compiled with others into a book
joining a peer support group with other from your generation from Centrepoint, and meeting regularly via zoom to share your experiences, support one another and discuss evolving issues
participating in a healing circle face to face with others from the community
Some of these options are currently available. Others are not and are simply early ideas about how to change the landscape moving forward. Where there is interest and energy, with some creativity and enough like minds, some of these may be possible.
NORTH & SOUTH
A Centrepoint Documentary
Warner Bros NZ and NZ OnAir 2020
Currently a NZ based film crew are working on the development of a new television documentary about Centrepoint. This will be aired on NZ television in March 2021. The documentary will explore the 22 year story of Centrepoint, through interviews with the people who lived there, who had close connection with the community, and the children who lived in and left the community. If you once lived at Centrepoint you may wish to know more about this documentary. Please make contact for more information.
"You cannot disown what is yours. Flung out, there is always the return, the reckoning, the revenge, perhaps the reconciliation.
There is always the return. And the wound will take you there."
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